(Source: YourTango)
Taylor Swift said it, “I’m the problem, it’s me.” But how do you know if you’re actually the problem in the relationship or not? There are some ways you can tell and it takes a bit of self-reflection.
Want to know if you’re the problem or not? Ask yourself these questions. Once you answer them, honestly, it’ll be easy to tell if the problem in your relationship is actually you.
Are you emotionally responsive and engaged with your partner?
Are you open to dialogue and negotiations?
Do you “soften your start-up,” as opposed to being harsh when raising an issue?
Are you willing to “accept influence” rather than “batting it back” or escalating arguments?
Do you know how to de-escalate negativity in an argument and make efforts to do it?
Are you trustworthy?
Do you focus on the positives and not just the flaws of your partner?
Do you respect your partner’s autonomy and individuality?
Do you strive to meet each other’s needs?
Do you make efforts to avoid falling into a rut?
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