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It's Not You, It's Me...Which You Are Not.

by JT

"I don't want to be tied down right now"

"I'm really focused on my career"

"I'm so busy, I don't even have time for a relationship"

Just a few of the classic volleys we throw at the dreaded, "So...are you seeing anyone right now?". While our go-to responses are logical and usually effective, do we actually believe a word of that crap? Of course not.

I would love for a man to come along and cure my chronic case of the singles. All I'm asking is for a halfway decent guy. Why is that so hard to find?

I'll tell you why .

Look in the mirror . No, I'm not saying you're the problem. You might actually be the solution. According to an article I found by Emma Pierson, " In the End, People May Really Just Want to Date Themselves ", Mr. Right may be the male version of you. Pierson examined data she retrieved from a popular dating site and found that both sexes were drawn toward someone that had a similar lifestyle, goals, educational achievement, and even personality characteristics as them.

While not 100% sound research, it is worth considering...and maybe even testing. Based on this line of reasoning, I need to be on the lookout for a Type A, overachieving, over-analytical, country boy, with a fake tan, hair, and eye color. Sounds like a winner.

...on second thought...maybe it is me.